Rejoice with those who rejoice, weep with those who weep. e second, like it, is this: ‘You shall love your neighbor as yourself.’ There is no other commandment greater than these.” Romans 12:15
I learned something about weeping and rejoicing after fourteen hours of flying time to Delhi India. I found an airport that looked just like New York (Only better). It was clean, bright and beautiful. But we were on a missions trip and not on a vacation. So though the staff at our hotel was polite and helpful, the room was something you find only in the world of India. Though we had crossed nine time zones it was still hard to sleep but washing with cold water from a bucket in the tub woke us right up in the morning! We quickly dressed and left for the airport to catch our flight to a smaller city. That is where to the amusement of my pastor and the taxi driver I began to experience the whole new world of Delhi traffic with each honk of the horn and lurch to the left or right avoiding pedestrians, bicycles and various animals.
Having a loved one move into a nursing home especially during this Covid-19 crisis, is like watching them travel farther away than even India. Every nation has its own language, laws and culture and just as you would carefully study a travel guide about them before going overseas so also it is important to prepare for the world of a nursing home your loved one is moving to. Their new home will mean losing a measure of the control which they once had. They lose privacy, the ability to travel, familiar surroundings and maybe most difficult of all; the right to say no to many things. Don’t turn a deaf ear to their fretting; instead be ready to rejoice when they rejoice and weep when they weep. You might not know all the answers for them but coming along on their journey is the best way to help them put down roots, make friends and accept for weeping or rejoicing that new world. Sharing their emotions and struggles can help to unlock the door to hope then just do your best to live out what the Apostle Paul added in the next verse:
Live in harmony with one another. Do not be haughty, but associate with the lowly. Never be wise in your own sight. Romans 12:16 Now that is loving just like Jesus would have us to do!