Embracing Christ’s Humility in Nursing Home Ministry

“Then he poured water into a basin and began to wash the disciples’ feet and to wipe them with the towel that was wrapped around him.John 13:5 ESV

A lot of people have come to me over the years, and say, “I want to get involved in nursing home ministry, but where do I get started?” Well, the truth is, I don’t know all the answers, but I have learned that nursing-home ministry, just like any other type of service in the body of Chrost is about joining team Jesus. Maybe it would help if you could just imagine getting together with friends to play a game of football. The team captains have already been chosen, and they begin to call out the names of those they pick. One by one, people go and stand next to their captain. In nursing home ministry, Jesus is not only our captain, but He is also the quarterback. He calls the plays in the huddle, throws the ball to different people on different occasions, and sometimes, even calls for a time out so that we can go to the sidelines to talk to our coach.

“But what can I do?” is an often-repeated question, and there is no single answer, because we all have different roles that God has given us to play. Maybe you are a people person, but not a public speaker. Why not see if a few residents might like to join a small Bible study one morning a week. Others of you can play an instrument, and you could team up with someone to hold a Sunday afternoon service, for those that can’t make it to church. One lady I met was a hairdresser, who volunteered a few hours a week to do hair, and while they were in the chair, she listened to their stories, pointed them to Jesus and prayed with them. But before you do anything, the most important thing of all is to listen to the coach, that is spend time in prayer. He already has a plan for you and me, but He gives us the privilege of seeking it out, knocking on His door, and then asking for His help to do what He asks.

But the key to everything we do is to follow how Jesus did things. In the upper room on the night of the Last Supper, Jesus shocked His disciples by washing their feet. In fact, Peter was so shocked that at first he refused to allow Jesus to wash his feet. More often than not, you and I are just like Peter. We have dirty feet, and we hate to admit it and we would hate even more for Jesus to see those feet and then kneel down and wash them. We feel so ashamed, so unworthy, so hopelessly out of control. We suddenly see how far we are from where God intends for us to be, but truth be told, that place of humility is exactly where Jesus wants us to be. He can’t use us to serve in the lives of others, until He has become the washer of our feet. We must be ready for the humility of receiving from Him before He can use us to give with humility to others.

“But what does that mean for me?” you might ask. In my case it has meant stopping a meeting to pray for a man who fell out of his wheelchair, or going into a room and praying with a family as their loved lies unresponsive in their bed. Joining team Jesus has often meant ditching my carefully planned meeting and responding to unexpected and sometimes unpleasant situations with grace. How that approach applies in your local community, begins by doing the things that Jesus did in the upper room that night. First, Jesus took off His robe, then He wrapped a towel around His waist. Now, this wasn’t just any old robe. This was the seamless one that had been lovingly woven by his mother and given to Him as a special gift. His robe marked His well-earned place of respect in His home, His village and among His disciples. Think of it like the steps I take before starting a painting project around our home. I set aside my nice comfortable jeans and slip into an old pair that hangs in our garage. Then my favorite t-shirt gets put away and I get the old worn-out one from my dresser. Last, I take off my new sneakers and dig out the beat-up ones kept in the bin holding my rollers and paint brushes.

So, if you are feeling God tugging on your heart to serve in long-term care ministry, begin where Jesus began.: on His knees in service to us. Start by asking yourself, “Where has God called me to serve? ” Then embrace the humility of Jesus, put aside the things that feel comfortable, and put on the work clothes needed for the job that God is calling you to do today!

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Indispensable!

On the contrary, the parts of the body that seem to be weaker are indispensable. 1 Corinthians 12:22-24 ESV

Indispensable! How I love the sound of that word! Society and sadly even some of our families, certainly do not think of us, who live in retirement or those in nursing homes as indispensable. We who once were the primary caregivers for our children are not really needed for much. Some in long-term care cannot even shower, cook or do the dishes without help. Dispensing with our help is something they have learned to do a long time ago. But the good news is that God delights in calling us indispensable. “In what way can I be indispensable?” you may ask. Here are three.

Prayer: Young people use the phrase, “over the hill” to describe getting older, but in some ways our years put us at a hilltop, from where we can see what our children and grandchildren cannot down in the valleys of life. So, instead of using that perspective to cluck about “That younger generation” God wants us to take time to pray. Because we know first-hand about consequences, and the bumps, bruises and scars of our own missteps and sins, God has taught us to pray, and He will hear and answer the prayers when we cry out to Him.

Connections: Grandad or Nana may not be the first call our kids make when the water heater leaks, the car breaks down or when their kids get in trouble at school, but sometimes we are asked for help. Then we can share the connections we have developed over the years. We know somebody, who knows somebody, or we have “been there and done that,” in that exact situation. Uncle “Google” pretends to know all the answers, but in the midst of a divorce, a disabling accident or a friend’s betrayal, real people with even average intelligence, beat the artificial kind every time!

Counsel: This is tricky, because if we are always offering counsel, we will be ignored (especially if we are right!). We must be patient, so that when they do call to ask our opinion he or she will want to listen. Let’s be sure when that time comes, that we are honest about our own struggles, and then point them to how we have found help in our faith and in God’s promises. We who have lived longer must tell them how we have failed, but with God’s help have gotten back up and gone on. Because we have been weak, He has become our greatest strength. Now our job is to pass it on to them!

Taking Time With Joan

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By Peter Caligiuri

As we grow older we may begin to feel useless, unneeded and alone. God gently takes our hand and gives us His full attention. When Jesus sees us, He does not see uselessness, but a life, well lived and well-loved. God, who is never too busy for us, challenges us to slow down, sit down, and visit with Joan or Jim today! They need our encouragement!

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