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Taking Care of Mom

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When Jesus saw his mother and the disciple whom he loved standing nearby, he said to his mother, “Woman, behold, your son!” Then he said to the disciple, “Behold, your mother!” And from that hour the disciple took her to his own home. John 19:26-27 ESV

A few years ago, during the pandemic, the way we had served in the past was challenged because nursing homes had closed their doors to visitors. Everything we knew how to do was denied us and we struggled to find ways to still reach the residents in practical loving ways. Today, that era is a distant memory, but if you are a caregiver, chaplain, family member or friend, you will still face moments of despair, and today’s verse encourages us to keep going whatever difficulties we face. Jesus chose us to serve in a unique way, to love widows and those orphaned by the world, entrusting their care to us for a season. When that call seems overwhelming, we need to remember, that when Jesus asked John to take care of His mother, He didn’t assign her as a problem to be solved or a burden to bear, but as a mother to love. Our calling as long-term care workers is to keep on loving people in every way possible and through every opportunity that God puts in our hands. Notice also that none of the other disciples ever understood or helped John out. While Peter and Paul had big public ministries, John stayed close to home. He was taking care of Mary as his lifelong commitment and a lifelong trust. While some people will understand and encourage us, most have little idea of what we are going through. But what matters is not what others think, what counts is that Jesus knows, and will give us His strength and His provision, because after all- we are taking care of His mom!

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The Impact of a Life

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It has been a long time since I heard Dr. Dobson on the radio, but when I heard the news of his passing, I paused to remember all the blessings his life and ministry gave us. Thirty years ago, I often listened on my truck radio while I worked long hours, trimming apples trees in the fields, or driving home at lunch time. His interviews with such a wide-ranging group of guests impacted not only my own life, but also how Nancy and I raised our boys, and helped us make decisions that changed the course of our marriage. I am thankful for Dr. Dobson’s humility, integrity and courage to speak the truth in love. Year after year, decade after decade, Jim Dobson stuck to his guns. When issues arose or mistakes were made by those at Focus on the Family, he gave us an honest answer, without pretense. I am also thankful for the example Jim Dobson set as he promoted not only his own career but also that of others, launching ministries for men, women, children, the disabled, the elderly and so many more. So today, let’s not place Jim on a pedestal, or enshrine him in a hall of fame, but recall with thankfulness the passing of a brother who dedicated his life to Jesus Christ and remained faithful in what God called him to do till the very end. Oh, the world has changed so much over the last 40-50 years, but it is still a world that God loves and no matter how far from Him they run, He has commissioned us, to run after them with the love and message of Jesus Christ. I am posting this interview done with CBN back in 2018, as I believe it epitomizes the best way we can do that. May God bless the Dobson family during this time and may the debate over the life and ministry of Dr. Dobson be respectful and kind. We must have a faith in Christ that is unwavering in its courage, but in its outreach show respect for others and malice towards none.

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What About that Proverbs 31 Man?

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Open your mouth for the speechless, In the cause of all who are appointed to die. Open your mouth, judge righteously, and plead the cause of the poor and needy. Proverbs 31:8-9 NKJV

As an average married guy, I used to think of Proverbs 31 as, “The Ladies Chapter.” Though it all sounded sweet and idyllic, it seemed to be filled with advice that had nothing to do with me. But then as I read these verses recently, I noticed that there is not only a Proverbs 31 woman, but there is also a Proverbs 31 guy, (King Lemuel). In fact, King Lemuel wrote this entire chapter, and its first nine verses teach about how a real man and a good king ought to live, and his advice is super relevant for men today. The first seven verses are like a bucket of cold water thrown over our heads. Apparently, King Lemuel had been heading down the wrong path, when his mom showed up at the door saying that he needed to be careful to watch out for the wrong kind of women and stay away from the bar! What I really love about this guy, is that he wasn’t embarrassed to mention that these ideas came from his mom. He then lets us in on the secret that he learned from her that being a good man means listening to a woman, when she speaks the truth. Or as it is told in the lyrics of the song, “It’s a Man’s Man’s World” by James Brown and Betty Jean Newsome:

"This is a man's man's world. But it wouldn't be nothin' without a woman or a girl!"

Then King Lemuel goes on to tell us that we need to be more than just a, “I Feel your pain” kind of guy. We are expected to take action. We are called to do more than conquer, consume and celebrate. We are commanded to put on our big-boy pants and speak up for the silent victims of our society, get involved with putting things right in our communities and personally stand up the cause of the poor. The Bible certainly doesn’t call us to be wimps, pushovers or sissies, but it does call us to use our uniquely male strength and abilities to defend the weak and carry the weight of the burdens of others. God is calling us as men to be the framers of a just society, the defenders of the weak and to keep our personal lives pure. All of this sounds a bit overwhelming and a pie-in-the-sky, and it makes me ask “So, where do I begin?” And that’s a perfect question because the rest of the chapter tells me that, I need to start by being faithful to a woman who fears the Lord and teach our children to honor her and publicly give her the praise she deserves! Then, when God is at the center of our family and we are together moving in His design, He will bless us. Throughout the Bible, God promises that as we stay faithful to one another, and serve one another, His joy and peace will fill our hearts and homes and show the love of Christ to anyone that God puts in our path today.