Unseen Caregiving

What to Do When a Disability is Unseen

So we are always of good courage. We know that while we are at home in the body we are away from the Lord, for we walk by faith, not by sight. Yes, we are of good courage, and we would rather be away from the body and at home with the Lord. 2 Corinthians 5:6-8 ESV

Do not be surprised or discouraged that as a caregiver a lot of what you do is unseen or misunderstood. In my years as a chaplain I have gotten to know people in many different kinds of long term care settings. I have seen, prayed for and been involved with people struggling with all different types of disability. While most people are familiar with disabilities linked to wheel chairs or breathing assistance; they may not think of those unseen disabilities involved with mental or emotional illness. If you are in such a place and are dealing with a loved one who battles with depression, memory loss, dementia or other unseen issues that leave you feeling frustrated and misunderstood you are not alone. The most important thing to remember is that God sees. Our battle in caring for our loved one may be unseen but as today’s scripture reminds us; we walk by faith in an unseen God who is able to help us because He sees our heart! He will give us strength for the journey and has promised to never leave us even when no one sees what we are up against. He is still more than enough! I loved and was encouraged by this short video from Ken and Joni on how God has helped them to see how caregiving has both challenged and strengthened their trust in the Lord. Through it all God has faithful to them and He will also see you through even at those times no one else understands. He who knows every detail so much so that he has even counted every hair on our heads will bring us through! Have a blessed Saturday everybody!

Honoring Mom

“Honor your father and mother” (this is the first commandment with a promise), Ephesians 6:2 ESV

My mom was smart, beautiful and a successful novelist, but she also battled with the unseen enemy of mental illness so writing about her has not been easy. Those who have never lived with someone with their own version of reality may never understand. But God doesn’t ask us to understand, only to love and honor her with more than just flowers.

So today thanks for a mom who was also fun and adventurous. Thanks that she taught me to stand up for the weak and to not be afraid of being different. Thanks for learning that commitment means never giving up even when no one else believes in you. Thanks God for my mom who I never understood but who loved me to the end!