Constructive Criticism

If you listen to constructive criticism, you will be at home among the wise.
Proverbs 15:31 NLT

Have you ever watched little birds being shoved out of the nest when they are ready to go out on their own? Now of course the chicks do not agree. It is comfy hanging around waiting for mom to bring them food. But uncomfortable as it is for them, their mother knows that for their own safety they need to learn to fly. In the same way God sometimes uses criticism that others are leveling at us to nudge us constructively out of our nests. For me usually my first reaction to opposition is to lash back at the people offer correction. But the Bible says that ” All things work together for good for those who love God.” If we would just add to that list of all things, the critical things people say, we might discover that our greatest detractors can become the ones who help us the most.

Criticism stings because we feel the pressure for perfection. Notice the avalanche of commentary on Simone Biles for withdrawing from some of the Olympic events. The fear of even the slightest deviation from her past magnificent performance loaded such a weight of pressure on her mind that she couldn’t concentrate and that fear endangered not only her winning a medal but her physical safety as well. Even though most of us will never be Olympians we can learn the same thing. The secret of growing as a person, especially in our relationship to Christ is accepting that we are not perfect. In fact it is perfectly normal to be imperfect. It is not surprising if we fail and even stumble and fall now and then. Remember God created us to be eagles and not porcupines. So instead of bristling like a porcupine under attack, we need to just flap our awkward wings. Remember even a few feet off the ground is enough to keep us safe from the cat and that God will teach us to fly effortlessly when we stop being afraid of falling!

Sanding Off the Rough Edges

As iron sharpens iron, So a man sharpens the countenance of his friend.               Proverbs 27:17 NKJV

Sharpening begins with a tool hard enough to wear down the imperfections that have dulled the blade of a knife. It reminds me a little of a bunk bed building project for underprivileged children where I recently spent two hours sanding 2 by 4’s. Smoothing down those scrapes and gouges reminded how God has used friends to wear off some of the roughness in my own life.

“You’re just an expert on everything!” my boss Al said sarcastically one day, as he threw up his hands in disgust. His words stung because they were true.  Because we moved a lot when I was a kid I tried being smarter or at least cool enough to be accepted by others. Without my being aware of it this left me a bit of a know-it-all until that day when Al pointed it out. As much as his words hurt, they started me on the path that I needed towards change.

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None of us much like criticism but that is the first step that God uses to sharpen us. But we hold the key to how things turn out in our hands. We can get angry and reject any kind of correction from others or we can allow God to put to take off our rough edges. Correction hurts but if we allow it, God will sharpen us and restore us to the purpose for which we are made. We have a decision to make. We can remain dull or we can allow our Father’s hand to sharpen us for His use.